Recently Mom has exhibited increased agitation and anxiety especially at night. When symptoms increase at the end of the day, doctors refer to it as sundowning.
Mom’s Symptoms of Sundowning
Previously, Mom went to bed around 6:00 and slept through the night. Now instead, she talked to herself until 10:00, repeatedly wadded up her blankets, called for staff several times during the night, maneuvered herself sideways in the bed or scooted up against the headboard until her neck was cranked. Overnight staff repeatedly repositioned her and settled her. For the first time, she fell out of bed. The second time it happened, it became clear she was trying to get out of bed, forgetting that she couldn’t stand or walk.
I consulted with Mom’s doctor who prescribed a sedative commonly used for sundowning in dementia. It would calm Mom and make her sleepy, theoretically anyway.
The Effects of Sundowning During the Day
All this activity during the night naturally resulted in increased napping during the day.
My visits with Mom deteriorated to five or ten minutes of conversation at some point in the two-hour visit, or none at all. The rest of the time, she was deeply asleep. Occasionally, she talked to herself in her sleep. The snippets I could hear over the tv music channel were “She didn’t have that on her,” an annoyed “Don’t look at us” as if she was talking to staff, and a complaining “She comes in and sits down and gets up and leaves.” I wondered if she was referring to me.
A Related Complication
A few days during that three-week period Mom was actually awake and alert. It was then, I discovered that even during the day she no longer understood that she couldn’t stand or walk. During my visit, she tried to get out of her recliner three times. I watched her scoot herself forward until stymied by the challenge of the footrest.
“Do you need something, Mom?” I asked.
“Oh, I was just wondering what we have for dinner.”
Since that was my first experience of Mom attempting to get up, I thought it was an aberration and joked, “Oh, a little bit of this added to a little of that.”
She laughed and sat back.
The second attempt came about twenty minutes later.
“Do you need to go to the bathroom, Mom?”
“I thought I’d turn the oven on.”
Okay, so now I understood she was truly concerned about dinner and thought it was her responsibility to provide it. So this time I answered her seriously.
“I think Alice is getting dinner, Mom.”
“But does she have enough for . . .” Mom gestured around the living room where three of the other residents were sitting. “ . . . all of us?”
“Yes, she is cooking dinner especially for all of you.”
“Oh. Well, that’s nice of her.”
I thought I would put her mind further at rest by actually going to the kitchen. I told Alice that Mom was trying to get up to help with dinner, and that I was just trying to settle her mind by checking on it. Then I returned to the living room with the affirmation that indeed Alice was making dinner and all was under control.
Less than ten minutes later, Mom made her third attempt. What now, I wondered?
“What are you trying to do, Mom?”
“I thought I’d set the table.”
Oh, great. “It’s too early Mom. It’s only 2:20. It’s more than an hour and a half before dinner.”
Before I left, I let Cassie also know that Mom was trying to get up. Cassie promised to keep an eye on her.
Ready for Another Solution
At the end of the three-week trial, we all agreed the sedative was not working, and I sent an email to her doctor with the report, which was basically “no improvement.”
The doctor has other possible solutions. I just hope we don’t have to go through too many before finding one that helps. I miss being able to spend time with my mother awake.